Domestic Violence Web Links & Book Resources


Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Lundy Bancroft. Berkley Trade, 2003.

This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming, but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike. Bancroft, the former co-director of Emerge, the nation’s first program for abusive men, has specialized in domestic violence for 15 years, and his understanding of his subject and audience is apparent on every page.

I Closed My Eyes: Revelations of a Battered Woman

Michele Weldon. Hazelden, 1999.

The author’s in-depth account of her physically and emotionally abusive marriage, how she began to recognize the signs, and how she safely left the relationship.

Broken and Battered: A Way Out for the Abused Woman

Muriel Canfield. Howard, 2000.

A practical help book for battered women that discusses types of abuse, safety planning, legal options, and resources for making changes.

It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence

Meg Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock. Routledge, 2000.

A resource for those who have left an abusive relationship and seek support for the emotional and practical challenges in rebuilding their lives.

Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe

Susan Murphy-Milano. Anchor Books, 1996.

A concrete, step-by-step guide for women on how to protect themselves and get safely away from their abusers.

Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free

Elaine Weiss. Agreka Books, 2000.

Twelve women from diverse backgrounds and occupations tell their stories of their abusive relationships, how they escaped, and how they reconstructed their lives.

Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life

Ginny NiCarthy. Seal Press, 1982.

A practical guidebook with exercises to help recognize abuse, gain self-esteem, and decide what one wants from a relationship. Includes stories from nine women who successfully left abusive partners.

Ditch That Jerk: Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women

Pamela Jayne. Hunter House, 2000.

A guidebook for women with assessment exercises to identify if their partners are controlling and abusive.

No Visible Wounds: Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men

Mary Susan Miller. Fawcett Columbine, 1995.

A guidebook that identifies the many types of nonphysical abuse (verbal, emotional, psychological, social, and economic) and explores why this treatment of women still continues in society.

The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself

Beverly Engel. Fawcett Columbine, 1990.

A sourcebook for emotionally abused women, this book is a step-by-step recovery guide that traces relationship habits and attitudes and promotes healthy change.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond

Patricia Evans. Adams Media, 1992.

Validation and understanding for people involved in verbally abusive relationships. This book exposes the many ways one can verbally abuse someone else, the effects on children and families, and recommendations to those who seek therapeutic support.

Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out: On Relationship and Recovery

Patricia Evans. Adams Media, 1993.

A relationship assessment tool, this book includes surveys, stories, insights, affirmations, and help for recovering from a verbally abusive relationship.

Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day

Anne Katherine. Fireside Books, 2000.

A practical guide to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in a wide variety of situations, this book presents case studies and real-life examples with specific advice on making choices that balance one’s own needs with the needs of others.

Cunt: A Declaration of Independence

Inga Muscio. Seal Press, 1998.

A historical and cultural examination of the word “cunt”, from an ancient title of respect for women to a derogatory expletive. This book explores the cultural forces that influence women’s relationships with their bodies and sexuality, and encourages women to understand, reconcile, and reclaim the power associated with what it means to have a cunt.

The Vagina Monologues: The V-day Edition

Eve Ensler. Villard, 1998.

A collection of monologues written by Eve Ensler and performed around the world that explore and celebrate female sexuality. These monologues have inspired a grassroots movement, known as V-day, to stop violence against women.


Books for child witnesses to domestic violence

Ages 4 – 8:

Sometimes Bad Things Happen
Ellen Jackson. Millbrook Press, 2002.

A Terrible Thing Happened
Margaret M. Holmes. American Psychological Association, 2000.

Something is Wrong at My House
Diane Davis. Parenting Pr, 1984.

A Better Safe Than Sorry Book: A Family Guide for Sexual Assault Prevention
Sol Gordon and Judith Gordon. Prometheus Books, 1992.

A Family That Fights
Sharon Chesler Bernstein. Albert Whitman & Company, 1991.

Hands Are Not for Hitting
Martine Agassi. Free Spirit Publishing, 2002.

Ages 9 – 12:

A Place for Starr: A Story of Hope for Children Experiencing Family Violence
Howard Schor. Kidsrights, 2002.

The Feelings Book: The Care & Keeping of Your Emotions
Dr. Lynda Madison. American Girl Publishing, 2002.

For Parents:

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse
Lundy Bancroft. Berkley Trade, 2005.

The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics
Lundy Bancroft. Sage Publications, 2002.

Children Who See Too Much: Lessons from the Child Witness to Violence Project
Betsy McAllister Groves. Beacon Press, 2003.

Children and Trauma: A Guide for Parents and Professionals
Cynthia Monahon. Jossey-Bass, 1993.